30-Day No Scorecard Golf Challenge: Redefining the Game

The other day, I did something on the golf course I’ve never done in my life: I didn’t keep score.

Yeah, I know. For a passionate golfer, that’s practically sacrilege. But I did it anyway. And it was weird. And it was freeing.

In my upcoming book, Presence Golf: A Sacred Path to Self-Mastery, I write a lot about detaching our ego from the scorecard. It’s one thing to write about it—it’s another thing to live it.

For most of my life, my worth has been measured by some kind of scorecard.

• As an athlete — it was about winning, racking up stats, and being the best.

• As a student — it was perfect grades, because perfection meant love.

• As a man — it became about how much money I could make, how many women I could get to fall in love with me, how much I could “prove” myself.

Scorecard after scorecard defined my life. That was my addiction—collecting proof that I mattered because deep down I didn't feel like I was enough. Win or lose. Success or failure. My entire identity was wrapped up in numbers.

Golf hasn’t been any different. The scorecard has been a leash on my joy—a measuring stick for my worth. A low 80s round? Success. Anything higher? Failure. Pressure. Tightness. Frustration.

So I planned on playing one round without keeping score as I recommend as a Presence Golf Practice that I write about in my book. And then my mentor said, “Do it for thirty days.”

Thirty days without my old definition of success. Thirty days of breaking the addiction to external validation. Thirty days of not knowing where I stand.

It made me uncomfortable as hell. Which is exactly why I knew I had to do it.

What I Discovered in Round One

Carefree. That’s the word.

I swung freer. I tried shots I normally wouldn’t. I laughed when the ball didn’t go where I wanted.

I hit some absolute gems. I made a birdie. I made a bunch of pars. I also yipped a couple of chips—my old nemesis—but even that didn’t get under my skin.

I was present.

And then I watched one of the guys I was paired with. He was keeping score, working on his handicap, and talking himself into the ground:

No, brother—you just hit a bad putt. You’re not horrible. But that’s the power a scorecard can have over a man’s soul.

The Bigger Game

Here’s the truth: Most men are playing life with a scorecard they didn’t even choose.

• How much money is in the bank.

• What your body looks like in the mirror.

• The title on your business card.

• The size of your house.

It’s all the same trap. It’s all external. And it’s all bullshit.

What if we started playing a different game? What if our scorecard wasn’t numbers—but who we are?

Not our job.

Not our net worth.

Not our reputation.

Just our state of being. Standing in our own inner power. Walking the course—and this life—as a son of God, unapologetic and free.

The Invitation

I’ve accepted this challenge fully: Thirty days without keeping score.

Thirty days to break the grip of numbers.

Thirty days to play and live with radical freedom.

And I’m inviting you into it with me.

If you’re tired of letting an external score define you—on the course or in life—then join me. Let’s trade in the scorecard for something bigger.

Not for a number.

But for Presence.

For freedom.

For the man you were created to be.

Ready to Play a Different Game?

Join me in the 30-Day No Scorecard Challenge and discover what it feels like to be free from external validation—on the course and in life.

This isn’t just golf. It’s training for the soul.

Drop the scorecard.

Step into Presence.

Start your 30 days today.